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Friday 10/29 she went for a spa day with two friends (she'd been looking forward to it).  That night I got a phone call that they were on their way to the ER.  Josh had Owen and Anson at the Disney on Ice show and I was putting Tommy to bed.  I did find someone to stay at my house thank goodness.  I guess she had some big "eposides" at the spa today.  Well Friday night at the ER is not fun!  Hours later like 4:30am  they dismissed her with a higher medication.
Saturday 10/30 started out okay.  She went to Aubrey's Volleyball game and was okay.  Later Josh called over there to arrange a time to hang out and he said she sounded fine.  So we went over there at about 4:00.  When we pulled up there were 5 cars there.  As we were getting out of the car Marion came running out. "She's having an 'episode' they are going back to the ER."  I said, "Josh go home, I'm going with them"  I went in the house and Tonya was hugging her crying friend Andrea.  I walked up to Tonya and she was having a manic type "episode" (this includes: repeating one phrase over and over and over again, fixating on one thing, rocking back and forth, unable to focus, difficulty making eye contact). I got in her face, gave her deep pressure on her shoulders and talked in a firm voice.  Then we moved to the front door and it started again with her coat.  I did the same and this time she said, "Ok let's go"  It was so cute/funny.  Then we got in the car and she asked where we were going. Kurt said back to the ER to get you help and she said, "not again, I hate it there"  It reminded me of a little kid, but then again that's how I had to treat her.  This time Kurt called the ER psychology department and they were there ready for our arrival.  Tonya had a big "episode" in the ER waiting room, in front of the psychologist.  That girl is too smart for her own good.  She knows what to say to get us all worked up/get things done.  Security was called and a wheel chair came out.  She was refusing to go in the ER (we were all surrounding her, she wasn't going anywhere).  I said "Tonya either you sit in that chair or these men will put you there."  "okay"(in a mopey voice).  We went in the ER and she was still in her "episode" I was out of the room signing papers, finally I just went in there, started her music, and basically told her to calm down.  It worked :)  Then the psychologist started talking about all these drastic alternatives OMG no thank you, she will hate us, but if that is what she needs.  Well they didn't have to do those alternatives, they determined it was medical not psychological.  So she was admitted to Oncology with heavy medication.  And we went home at a decent time (10:30)  She was in the hospital for 4 days each day drastically better!  Now 11/3 she is home!  Today I took her errands shopping.  She said she slept all night!  Hooray!!!  She seemed so different from the person she was last Saturday.
So now that I think back, I think I have the "triggers" narrowed down.  So on our errands today I was taking note of our surroundings and her reactions to situations.  Well thing went very very smooth.  The only thing I noted was her decreased problem solving skills, she kinda panicked in stressful situations, but I helped her though it.
Let's pray that phase is over!